As Marines, many assume we simply follow orders without question, functioning as unthinking robots. While there is truth to our strict adherence to discipline Marines — and service members as a whole — are free thinking, living and breathing humans. Understanding why we do what we do is critical, and as a leader I make it a priority to communicate that to my team.
Whether I am in the the gym as a coach or leading Marines in the field, explaining the “why” behind an action serves multiple purposes. It builds trust, fosters buy-in, shows my people that I care about their development and success. In the military we call this, Commanders intent. It’s not just about what needs to be done — it’s about understanding the purpose behind it.
This weekend, a corporal approached me and asked, “Sir, why do we do it that way?” This was a pivotal moment. I could have defaulted to saying “Because I said so” or “Just do it”. But as leaders, we have a responsibility to recognize the real reasons behind these questions:
-They may not understand because the task wasn’t communicated effectively.
-They’re seeking insight and trying to learn.
These questions are opportunities to teach, empower and build trust. When we take the time to explain the “why”, we are preparing our Marines for those critical moments when time is short, and they have to trust our orders without hesitation. They’ll know we have their best interest at heart, and they’ll follow us into any fight.
The same principle applies in the gym, in the corporate world, or in every day life. Asking “why” enhances understanding, challenges outdated practices, and strengthens communication. If the only answer to “why” is “because we have always done it that way”. That’s not good enough. As leaders, if we don’t know the answer it’s our duty to protect our team and ask the questions ourselves. That way, we gain clarity, build buy in, and endure the message is properly conveyed.
Asking “why” should never be seen as disrespectful or a challenge to authority. It’s a tool for learning, growing and empowering others. Leaders take the time to explain. Message sent isn’t always message received.
“Purpose fuels passion. And passion, when channeled with discipline, is unstoppable.”
— Gen. Stanley McChrystal (paraphrased)
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